we need a specific term for when someone has immersed themselves in a real or imagined counterculture and lost all awareness whatsoever of mainstream culture and so end up saying extremely popular and normative positions like they’re being rebellious
“let men be masculine” / “let women be feminine” / “it’s okay to be a trans woman who wants to pass” / “it’s okay to listen to taylor swift” / etc. – things said by people who should look out the window some time
father’s day is funny in my family because my dad is so angry this holiday exists that it’s the one day of the year i am NOT allowed to call him. we are officially estranged for 24 hours a year. wishing him a happy father’s day is a declaration of hostilities.
and like he is a good dad with a good dad, there’s no traumatic backstory to this, he just hates The Man telling him what to do so much that it’s a personal affront that someone decided that anyone is supposed to feel a thing on a specific day or, god forbid, spend their hard earned dollars because shaving commercials tell them to. if a dad did his job right (be a good father who unconditionally loves his kids), his kids should love him 364 days a year but FUCK the 365th day to spite hallmark and gillette specifically and you know what. i respect it.
Anyways, my increasingly unpopular take in this day and age is that no one is entitled to know anything about an author’s personal life. They put their stories out there for you to judge, they didn’t put *themselves* out there. And expecting queer people to out themselves before you decide whether or not they deserve harassment is just fucking heinous.
The private life as eroded so steeply in the online age that there’s no longer even a cultural expectation of it. Indeed, people have elevated the curtailment of privacy to a virtue, and not only is that disgusting, it is all but GUARANTEED to come back and bite those of us with marginalized social identities on the ass in the next few years. Stop it! Resist the Facebookization of culture!
saw this post the other day that talked about how so many of us are soooo scared of appearing even momentarily human towards each other these days. like you can’t see me sweat or cry or without makeup or with food stuck in my teeth or laugh loud and ugly. everything must be composed and sanitised and photo ready at all times. it’s like corporate office culture seeping out into our homes and our lives and for what. it’s not cringe to be a real person around other real people
[ID: a screenshot of a tweet from twitter user clur19 that reads; my schedule is wide open but i also have the energy levels of like a hundred year old cat that’s about to be put down, so i am both very free and very busy. End ID]
We all love urban fantasy but we have to contend with the fact that if monsters were real, some of them would be normies. Your werewolf boyfriend posts on LinkedIn. The tentacled horror you’ve been thirsting after is a Disney adult.
You did it, you made unimaginable horror within man-made comprehension.
